海外看點 | 7 Tips From a Lazy Psychologist Mom 一位懶惰的心理學家媽媽的7條小技巧(2)

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7 Tips From a Lazy Psychologist Mom That Parents Around the World Are Thankful For

一位懶惰的心理學家媽媽提出的7條小技巧,全世界父母都感激

3. Manage your child’s temper tantrums

海外看點 | 7 Tips From a Lazy Psychologist Mom 一位懶惰的心理學家媽媽的7條小技巧(2)

If you’ve failed to prevent a tantrum, you can do the following:

•Shift your child’s attention to something else。

•Come up with a calming routine。 As a rule, most families develop their own calming routine over time。 It can be the same rhyme, fairytale, or game。 For example, mom can gently blow on the child’s eyes to dry their tears。 Or you can give the child some “magic” water that will calm them down。

•Just ignore this behavior。 If you’ve already tried other methods and there are no health risks involved (like an epileptic or asthmatic seizure), you can leave the child alone to cry for a little while or just ignore their screaming。 Don’t scold your child or lock them up alone in a room, just share your feelings: “I think you just want to cry right now。。。 When you’re done, we’ll [offer to do something fun]。”

4. Feed a picky eater

海外看點 | 7 Tips From a Lazy Psychologist Mom 一位懶惰的心理學家媽媽的7條小技巧(2)

Food is a basic human need。 Imagine that you’ve “forgotten” to feed a newborn。 They’ll let you know about how hungry they are with a loud scream and won’t calm down until you feed them。 The child knows best when and how much they should eat。

•When you offer the child varied and colorful food, remember the psychology behind it: the most important thing is to not try to persuade them。 Let your child become really hungry。 The appetite is always better when it’s associated with positive emotions。

•If you let the child take part in the cooking process, give them an opportunity to try different ingredients and pick products at the supermarket, you’ll never face problems with poor eating again。

•And when you want to give your child more food than they actually need, just take some time and think: “Why do I do that? Is it about the stereotypes from the past? Do I believe that we should never have anything left on the plate? Or am I afraid that the child will still be hungry?” The child isn’t an enemy to themselves and they have a strong connection with their bodies。 They’ll eat when they’re hungry。 Feeding the child by force isn’t the best way to express parental love。

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3。處理孩子發脾氣

如果你沒有能夠防止孩子發脾氣,你可以採用下面的做法:

*把你孩子的注意力轉向別的東西。

*找到一套使孩子安靜下來的辦法。一般說來,過一段時間,多數家庭都會形成一套自己使孩子安靜的辦法。可能是同樣的小詩、童話故事或者遊戲。例如,母親可以輕輕吹孩子的眼睛,來吹乾他們的眼淚。或者,你可以給孩子一些“魔法”水,讓他們安靜下來。

*直接忽略這種行為。如果你已經嘗試了其他的辦法,不會涉及到健康危險(比如癲癇或哮喘發作),你可以不理孩子,讓他哭一會兒,或者直接不理睬他們的哭叫。不要責罵你的孩子,或者把他們的一個人鎖在房間,就分享你的感受:“我想現在你只是想哭……等你哭完了,我們就(提出做某件有趣的事情)。”

4。喂挑食的孩子

食物是人類基本的需要。假設你“忘記”喂一個新生兒。他們會大聲尖叫,讓你知道他們是多麼餓,你不喂他們,他們就不消停。孩子最清楚他們什麼時候吃飯,該吃多少。

*當你給孩子多樣又多彩的食物時,記住其後面的心理學:最重要的是不要試圖說服他們。讓你的孩子變得真正飢餓。食慾與積極的情緒相關時,總是最好的。

*如果你讓孩子參與做飯的過程,給他們一個嘗試不同配料和在超市選擇產品的機會,你就再也不會遇到吃飯困難的問題了。

*如果孩子不需要,而你想讓孩子多吃飯的時候,你就花些時間想一想:“我為什麼那樣做呢?是因為過去的某個刻板印象嗎?我相信盤子上什麼也不剩下嗎?還是我擔心孩子還會餓呢?”孩子不是自己的敵人,他們跟自己的身體是緊密連線的。他們餓了就會吃的。強行喂孩子不是表達父母之愛的最好方式。

海外看點 | 7 Tips From a Lazy Psychologist Mom 一位懶惰的心理學家媽媽的7條小技巧(2)